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Coriolis
04-24-2005, 02:25 PM
ST. LOUIS, Mich. (AP) - Alexander J. Vance and his wife, Leola, made a life together for nearly 64 years. This week, they died 14 hours apart at Schnepp's Health Care Center.

Alexander Vance met Leola in Algonac, where Vance was building barges for the military in 1941. He was 20, she was 16.

Leola Vance later told her children that she liked her future husband's personality and the twinkle in his eye. He liked "everything" about her, Phil Vance, the couple's 48-year-old son, told the Morning Sun of Mount Pleasant for a Saturday story.

They married Dec. 19, 1941 and moved to the Alma area.

Alexander Vance worked for Alma Products for 39 years, retiring as general foreman about 20 years ago, while his wife was a homemaker.

The couple stayed in their home for as long as they could, until Parkinson's disease forced Alexander Vance to move into a nursing home in February.

Earlier this month, Leola Vance, who had been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, began complaining that her head hurt. It later was determined that she had bleeding in her brain. By April 15, her husband also had taken a turn for the worse and both were in a coma in a nursing home.

"It was almost like a race," Phil Vance said. "They always said they wanted to go together and I sometimes think they were telepathically communicating about who would go first. But we were told she might live for several more days."

Alexander Vance died at 9:45 a.m. EDT Wednesday. Phil Vance said family members were singing hymns in his mother's room later that night, when she stopped breathing just before midnight.

"'Now you can be together,' I said," recalled Phil Vance, a retired minister who will perform a service at the Dewey Funeral Home in Alma on Monday.

"They had asked me to do the funeral. It's really a great love story."

sparky
04-24-2005, 05:16 PM
awww gosh brought tears to my eyes i know i am a softie.

well i have heard of within a few days or months of each other but within hours of each other. atleast they are together and that is all that matters.

Coriolis
04-24-2005, 07:26 PM
Sandy - I saw this and wanted to post it. It reminded me of a family I recall years ago. They both ended up in the hospital one day apart. The woman died (I dont recall why) - then 8 hours later he died. They were not sure if it was because he loved her so much he wanted to die with her or if it was the illness that killed him - either way - they are together again.

sparky
04-24-2005, 08:17 PM
this story reminds me of june and johnny cash cept it was months apart versus hours but many in nashville feel he lost his will to live once june died. whcih is not uncommon

swmochic
04-25-2005, 01:28 PM
I see that alot in my job...My husbands dad died in may of 96, then at his dads funeral he got a call saying his mom had died. It was very sad. My uncle's dad died in 2003 and 4 days later his mom died. Some people are so attached..seems they can't thrive with out their other half? Some people are meant to be together no matter what the cost.